Friday, December 24, 2010

Drop negative thinkings

There is a complaint from my friend. "I am not able sleep well at night because I live in an area where there are plenty of street dogs and they keep barking till morning".
He was told, "When you hear the barking, just drop the anger and negative feelings that you get. Just listen to the barking sound without resisting. Tell yourself that the dogs are barking, that is all. Do not allow yourself to react. The problem is not the barking, but your resistance to it".

He tried and changed his though process gradually,
"The dogs are barking. It is spoiling my sleep..."
"Yes, dogs are barking, let it do, it is natural each animal makes some sound"
"I am no way reason for that barking, why should I react"
"I am getting sleep, I sleep now"
He slept well. We often get similar situations and make ourselves tensed. Why dogs are barking, even human beings do .... We can avoid such situations if we know to drop our negative reactions and ignore such happenings.

We need not react for everything, keep mum solves many troubles.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Career guidance

Recently I read an article written by Shri N.C. Sridharan, Director (Finance) Chennai Petroleum Corporation Limited (CPCL), Manali, Chennai - 68, wherein he has shared his thoughts on Do’s and Don’ts in career Development. The article gives specific guidance for peaceful career and life. It is useful and worth to remember. 

Read in his words ….

I learnt these lessons in the context of my early career days. I would like to share the deeper life lessons that I have learned. My sincere hope is that this sharing will help you to see your own trial and tribulation for the hidden blessings they can be. With this, I will now share some thoughts on Do’s and Don’ts in career development.

The first lesson I would like to share is ask for yourself, don’t compare with others. The grass on other side, always seems to be green, you see others who have achieved, some level of success, instantly wonder how you might be able to do the same. Comparing yourself with others doesn’t get you very far. In the beginning of my career, I was annoyed when I saw some one getting promoted which I deserved. Later, I understood that comparing us with others would not take us anywhere, instead, quit worrying about what others are doing and focus on exploring what you are good at.

The second important lesson is rectifying mistakes instead of being pointed out by others. It is always easy to point out others mistake. If we really care for ourselves we should learn to accept our own mistakes. Instead attempt to show that we are correct. The best leadership quality is that as soon as we understand that we have made a mistake accept it and correct it immediately.

The third lesson is Be friendly to foe – Try to mingle with others when you attend seminars and workshops. Gain new friends and share experience with them. Your mutual appreciation group will never create problem to you. Hence, greet people hostile to you, rather than greeting your friends who will never do any harm to you.

Next important lesson, I would like to share is Always work sincerely everyday. Don’t sit back and relax during cooling period of your service and start working only when you become eligible for promotion.

The fifth and the foremost lesson is Decide specialist vs Generalist function – which path to choose, whether, to dig deeper and deeper in one specific area of an industry or technology, or look wider and wider to comprehend the dynamics involved in the entire sector? Which path you should choose should be decided in the start of the career and focus on your core area of interest.

The sixth lesson is never take mobility as a constraint Change will allow us to grow and develop. Always keep your mind open for change. Never keep mobility a constraint.

Next important lesson is on presentation in a group. Don’t be in a hurry to express you ideas. Adopt wait and watch situation, you will get a chance to speak and express your ideas clearly to impress them.

Next lesson is inspiring your boss to come up and fulfill his promises. Always work along with your team and its vision.

And as a final word, I would like to quote Bhagavath Gita, Do your duty to the best of your abilities, without self-centered motive. expresses sincere thanks to Shri N. C. Sridharan, Director (Finance), CPCL, Chennai.

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Matured enough

Tough times were designed by life in order to strengthen us to face the challenges of today and to make us matured enough for tomorrow.

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Troubles and blessings

Face your troubles and count your blessings.
Stop asking, "why me god?" for all your troubles and 
start asking, "why me god?" for all your blessings.

Recollect your blessings you have... you find your troubles are small.
Every thing is happening for a reason and for good.

Only thing we must remember, we must not harm others even by our thoughts and words and by our acts, rest will be taken care by nature. 


Sunday, October 24, 2010

Believe in yourself

More than how the world sees you, it is how you see yourself that makes all the difference to you. 

Even if no one believes in you, you got to believe in yourself.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Mahatma Gandhi

While boarding a train, one of Mahatma Gandhi's sandals slipped and fell on to the track. As the train had started moving, without hesitation he took off his other sandal, threw it out and said, "Now some poor man walking along the track will have the fortune of finding two"

Wednesday, October 13, 2010


Abraham Lincoln once saw a pig in the marshes. 

The President soiled his clothes and saved the pig. 

He later said, "I was pained to see the suffering of the pig. By helping the pig, I had only relieved myself of my affliction. I was actually helping myself and not the pig".

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

About others


Sacrates said, "Before you talk to me about anybody, take a triple filter test"

The first filter - are you certain that it is true? 
The second filter - is it something good? 
The third filter - will it be useful to me? 

"If it is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all" 

Thursday, September 23, 2010

God is watching

There was a function in a primary school.

At the end of the function a dinner was arranged. Students were lined up. Eatables were placed in order. First container was with Apples. A small board was placed nearby telling that TAKE ONLY ONE APPLE, GOD IS WATCHING. 

Apple was followed by other eatables and ended with a container of chocolates. On seeing the chocolate, a child took a paper & pen and wrote, FRIENDS, TAKE CHOCOLATES AS MUCH AS YOU WANT, GOD IS BUSY WITH WATCHING APPLES.

Moral of the story ? 
Any views ! 

Sunday, September 12, 2010



We are always under pressure because of our own creation of pressure. We fix targets ourselves ( or expect ) for more than 100% and for reaching the target we put pressure ourselves. We try to beat clock. The pressure is due to over estimate or lack of time management.    

Proper planning of time, food, talk will help us in long way to get peace of mind in life.

.We also need to take care of our tongue, both for taste and talk. 

Sunday, September 5, 2010


We often offer solutions or start arguments before the other person completes  whatever he wants to tell. This may be out of eagerness, but definitely out of lack of listening power. The other person might have been told just for listen or for information, whereas we start to react and get in to problems. 

In many occasions simple listening will help us and will avoid unpleasant situations and misunderstandings. Silent is best  solution in many situations, but this requires a habit of listening to others. The words, "Listen" and "Silent" are not same but are having same alphabets. 

Golden rule -  

Have a good day.   

Saturday, August 28, 2010


What happens to us is not in our control. Let us accept it.  But how we are going to respond to what has happened is absolutely in our control.

We should take responsibility for it. What happened is created by our past karma.  

How we going to respond will cause the karma from which our future will be decided.

Saturday, August 21, 2010


I gentlemen is having a habit of making "annadhanam" (distribution of free food) on Amavaisai days (new moon day - monthly once). But his problem is that nobody is appreciating his efforts. When enquired it is learnt that some people are cursing him for not giving food when they requested on non-Amavasai days. 

The peoples' complaint is that during Amavasai days many people are offering food and the food is available in plenty, whereas in other days getting food is not guaranteed. When few people, during non-amavasai days, approached this gentlemen for food with so much of hungry he refused to give food and also told that he is giving food monthly once to all. He felt that people not having any gratitude for his service. .

Where is the problem? Hungry is one which has to be fulfilled immediately, there is no point in giving super food varieties when the food is available already and feel proud that we have done a wonderful service. For people when they are hungry even a cup of plain rice or minimum food will satisfy them instead of claiming credit that we have given super foods (when the food is available even otherwise). 

HELP or SERVICE will be recognised only when it is done, at the time of requirement / required fashion, not when done at our convenient time / fashion. 

Saturday, August 14, 2010

His Holiness Vethathiri Maharishi

வாழ்க வையகம்!
வாழ்க வளமுடன்!!

"His Holiness Vethathiri Maharishi was a seer and Social reformer who propogated the vision of world peace through cultivation of peace and harmony from individual to family and ultimately from family to society for the Positive transformation of our planet" - Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam, former President of India.

100th birth day of His Holiness Vethathiri  Maharishi, Mahan of this century has been celebrated in grand manner to day. Hon'ble Chief Minister of Tamil Nadu, Dr. Kalaingar, Thiru M Karunanidhi, delivered a special address on Vethathi Maharishi in full packed Jawaharlal Nehru auditorium at Chennai, Tamilnadu. 

Government of India issued a commemorative postage stamp on Veththiri Maharishi to day. I am happy that myself and my wife had the opportunity to participate in this meeting which is a life time chance.  

Saturday, August 7, 2010

Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?

Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.

But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?


When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why?

Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...'

When they love each other even more, what happens?

They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.

MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return .

Saturday, July 31, 2010

Clues for happiness

The famous writer Shri KHUSHWANT SINGH gives EIGHT CLUES  for happiness. Read his words -

Having lived a reasonably contented life, I was musing over what a person should strive for to achieve happiness. I drew up a list of a few essentials which I put forward for the readers' appraisal.

1. First and foremost is GOOD HEALTH. If you do not enjoy good health you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct from your happiness.  

2. Second, a HEALTHY BANK BALANCE. It need not run into crores but should be enough to provide for creature comforts and something to spare for recreation, like eating out, going to the pictures, travelling or going on holidays on the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be only demoralizing. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one's own eyes. 3. Third, A HOME OF YOUR OWN. Rented premises can never give you the snug feeling of a nest which is yours for keeps that a home provides: if it has a garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, cultivate a sense of kinship with them.  

4. Fourth, AN UNDERSTANDING COMPANION, be it your spouse or a friend. If there are too many misunderstandings, they will rob you of your peace of mind.  

5. Fifth, LACK OF ENVY towards those who have done better than you in life; risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be very corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.  

6. Sixth, DO NOT ALLOW OTHER PEOPLE to descend on you for gup-shup. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.

7. Seventh, CULTIVATE SOME HOBBIES which can bring you a sense of fulfilment, such as gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks or to meet celebrities is criminal waste of time.  

8. Eighth, every morning and evening, devote 15 minutes to INTROSPECTION. In the morning, 10 minutes should be spent on stilling the mind and then five in listing things you have to do that day. In the evening, five minutes to still the mind again, and ten to go over what you had undertaken to do.  

Have a Good day! 

Friday, July 30, 2010

மன அமைதி

அமைதியின் விளைவு தியானம்
தியானத்தின் விளைவு நம்பிக்கை
நம்பிக்கையின் விளைவு அன்பு
அன்பின் விளைவு சேவை
சேவையின் விளைவு மன அமைதி

                                   - அன்னை தெரசா

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Exchange ideas

If you have an apple and I have an apple and exchange our apples, then you and I will still each have one apple. 

But if you have an idea and I have an idea and we exchange these ideas, then each of us will have two ideas -

Let us share our constructive ideas !.  

Thursday, July 8, 2010


When you fall, in any way, don't see the place where you fell, instead see the place where from you slipped, why slipped. 

If sincere efforts are taken to know the reasons for mistake, we will not repeat such mistakes. 

Our consciousness should ready to accept mistakes and should resolve not to repeat such mistake. 


Wednesday, June 30, 2010

We assume many things and act based on past experience of our own and others. In the course of days/ months/ years such act becomes an habit. We think that such experiences are hold good for ever. 

Instead, if we start rethink on those habits and analyze the rationale behind those habits, certainly we will come to know, how many things we are doing just as habit without rationale. Let us remember the experience of Watermelon farmers.

Similarly, if we have formed any opinion on somebody, we need not assume the same opinion for ever. Things are changing every day, peoples behavior is not same for ever. Stopping assumptions will reform our life style. 

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Assume ourselves

In our day to day life we assume many things and limit our capabilities. Some times we land into problems also. See a situation! Japanese grocery shops have space problem, they does not have big spacious shops. like in US. They sell watermelons which are big and ROUND and occupied more space. Hence shops were not interested in sell watermelons.

Nevertheless farmers does not want to discontinue watermelons cultivation. The farmers did not assume that it was impossible - and simply asked how it could be done. They decided to have a different approach.

They found out that if watermelon is put in a square box when they are growing, the watermelon will also take a shape of box - and grow into as a square fruit. Ultimately they made it. 

This made the grocery shops happy. It was much easier and cost effective  for shops to ship the watermelons. Consumers also loved them because they took less space in their refrigerators which are much smaller than those in the US meaning that the growers could charge a premium price for them.

What does this mean in our life or at our Job? Let us introspect ourselves, we will meet soon!

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Spititual Progress

Developing awareness in one's mind to watch and assess one's own thoughts, words and deeds and steamlining them by a systematic method to the harmony of one and all in society is spiritual progress.

To attain this full spritual progress Mahan Vethathiri Maharishi has developed a Yoga system with four fold process namely, Meditation, Introspection, Sublimation and Perfection.

This system will develop the powers of creativity, increase intellectual sharpness and result in radiant health and vibrant personality. In short, it makes a man perfect man if followed sincerely and regularlyvisit

Wednesday, June 9, 2010


Life is just like a river, it is moving always, nothing stays with us.What stays with us is only just memories of some people who touched us as moving water in the river. 

Keep only sweet memories, forget about others attitude. Do not try to change someone's attitude, let us change our attitude and adjust. 


Sunday, May 30, 2010

Source of stress

There is always complaints about stress in work and life. A senior lecturer explains this way to come out of stress. 

A group of people met this lecturer. The lecturer offered coffee to them. The lecturer went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups: porcelain, plastic, glass, some plain looking and some expensive and exquisite, telling them to help themselves to hot coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the lecturer said:

"If you noticed, all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the better cups and are eyeing each other's cups."

"Now, if Life is coffee, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, but the quality of Life doesn't change." "Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it."

..So friends, don't let the cups drive you...enjoy the coffee instead.. 

Sunday, May 23, 2010


Every day we are advising our children on the need to give respect to elders.

When a father/ mother finds an article in a magazine or  seeing a video immediately he/ she calls their children asking them to read or listern and follow. But unfortunately they forget it is meant for them also.

What we practise, our children will follow. 

Monday, May 10, 2010


Reflection can not be seen in boiling water;
Truth can not be seen in a state of anger;

Getting anger will only spoil the situation further;
Try to tolerate, adjust, if required sacrifice;

விட்டுக் கொடுப்பவர்கள், 
கெட்டுப்போவதில்லை !
விட்டுக்கொடுப்பதில்லை !!

Saturday, May 8, 2010




STOP asking "WHY ME GOD"? 
for all troubles !

START asking "WHY ME GOD"? 
for all blessings !!


Friday, April 30, 2010

Control your mind

A disciple and his teacher were walking through the forest. The disciple was disturbed by the fact that his mind was in constant unrest.

He asked his teacher, "Why most people's minds are restless and only a few possess a calm mind? What can one do to still the mind?"

The teacher looked at the disciple, smiled and said, "I will tell you a story. An elephant was standing and picking leaves from a tree. A small fly came, flying and buzzing near his ear. The elephant waved it away with his long ears. Then the fly came again, and the elephant waved it away once more."

This was repeated several times. Then the elephant asked the fly, "Why are you so restless and noisy? Why can't you stay for a while in one place?"

The fly answered: "I am attracted to whatever I see, hear or smell. My five senses pull me constantly in all directions and I cannot resist them. What is your secret? How can you stay so calm and still?"

The elephant stopped eating and said, "My five senses do not rule my attention. Whatever I do, I get immersed in it. Now that I am eating, I am completely immersed in eating. In this way I can enjoy my food and chew it better. I rule and control my attention, and not the other way around."

Upon hearing these words, the disciple's eyes opened wide and a smile appeared on his face. He looked at his teacher and said, "I understand! If my five senses are in control of my mind and attention, then my mind is in constant unrest. If I am in charge of my five senses and attention, then my mind becomes calm."

"Yes, that's right", answered the teacher, "The mind is restless and goes wherever the attention is. .Control your attention and you control your mind.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Observe and Respond

Two ladies were sitting in a restaurant. Suddenly a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She panicked and jumped out of fear. She tried the maximum to do away with the cockroach. In the process she  pushed away the cockroach to the another lady. Her panic was double. The other lady also did the same thing and desperately tried to get rid of the cockroach. Now the cockroach fell on the nearby waiter. The waiter did not get tensed, but just observed its movement on his dress. At a point of time, the cockroach took more time to move i.e just stopped. The waiter took his hand over it and grabbed. He threw it away.

What the cockroach did, what the ladies did and what the waiter did? Nothing wrong with the cockroach, it is its natural behavior. What the ladies did? Why they panicked? Is it not their inability to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach? 

 My wife shouts on me, it disturbs my mind and I also shout back. The result .... Instead as what the waiter did, if I would have been cool and responded politely, things would have been different. Similarly, when boss shouts on his subordinate and so on.

 More than the problem, the way we react to it, is the real problem, which hurts us more!

The ladies reacted while the waiter responded. Reaction is instinctive where as Response is intellectual.

                            .We should not react, we should always respond.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Day to day experiences shape men's behaviour and makes him perfect. By the time we realise the right way of our life, the cream period of our life is over or nearing to over. 

To avoid this disappointment in future, we should have the habit of reading autobiographies of the worlds great leaders  and learn from their habits, inspirations and philosophies. A simple incident narrated in the autobiography may change our life style. 

More particularly we should encourage our younger generation to read the autobiography of great leaders like  Mahathma Gandhi and Mahans like Vethathiri Maharishi and so on. 


Friday, April 9, 2010

Every day as soon we get up we think about our day to day pressing works at home, work place and engagements of the day but fail to give importance to our self development! 

We must allot some time every day in the morning for meditation, walking, physical exercise. We can listen to soft music, songs and if possible inspirational speeches. Also we can spare some time to visualize the day to come.

Why don't we make it as a practice! 

.Let every day begin with a powerful strategy.

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Just think

Life is so short to follow all rules !

Forgive quickly !

Believe slowly !

Love truly !

Never avoid anything which would make you laugh !

Thursday, March 25, 2010


It is better to lose your ego to the one you love
than to lose the one you love 

Soldier said to Major – Sir, we are surrounded from all sides by enemies, 
Major replied – Good, that means, we can attack in any direction.

I hear and I forget
I see and I remember
I do and I understand