Monday, April 26, 2010

Observe and Respond

Two ladies were sitting in a restaurant. Suddenly a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She panicked and jumped out of fear. She tried the maximum to do away with the cockroach. In the process she  pushed away the cockroach to the another lady. Her panic was double. The other lady also did the same thing and desperately tried to get rid of the cockroach. Now the cockroach fell on the nearby waiter. The waiter did not get tensed, but just observed its movement on his dress. At a point of time, the cockroach took more time to move i.e just stopped. The waiter took his hand over it and grabbed. He threw it away.

What the cockroach did, what the ladies did and what the waiter did? Nothing wrong with the cockroach, it is its natural behavior. What the ladies did? Why they panicked? Is it not their inability to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach? 

 My wife shouts on me, it disturbs my mind and I also shout back. The result .... Instead as what the waiter did, if I would have been cool and responded politely, things would have been different. Similarly, when boss shouts on his subordinate and so on.

 More than the problem, the way we react to it, is the real problem, which hurts us more!

The ladies reacted while the waiter responded. Reaction is instinctive where as Response is intellectual.

                            .We should not react, we should always respond.

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